Bruce Nemovitz

You’ve reached a point where you know it is time to sell your home and move to a new lifestyle. You’ve wrestled with the emotional roller coaster for the past few years and you have decided to end the indecision and move forward. Congratulations!

But wait a moment, why do you still second guess this decision several times per day? Why are you constantly asking yourself if this was the right conclusion to best meet your needs? Why are you still looking at other living options even though you have signed up at a community or apartment?

Think about it, our home means more than four walls and a place to park our cars. This has been the focal point for your children, spouse, friends and extended family. You have connections with the neighbors and you have enjoyed the restaurants, stores, and service providers in your neighborhood. These surroundings have become an essential part of who you are. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. We tend to minimize this aspect of our home when it is time to move. Those who love and care for you will many times trivialize the attachment to your home to offer protection from your negative emotions. They don’t want to see you in pain, and want the best for you. Remember, you have told your loved ones it is time to move so they are in a mind set to offer guidance and help with this decision. They are moving forward faster than you are in hopes to lessen the pain of indecision. Try to understand their perspective so that you don’t blame them for their insensitivity to your emotional challenge connected to your move.

If you find yourself procrastinating after a decision to move has been made, it is a defense mechanism to put off the inevitable. It means you have not fully come to grips with your new lifestyle which awaits you. If you find yourself saying that you are overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin, know that this is normal and expected. It is up to you to move in a forward direction and take charge by beginning the downsizing and employing the service providers and family necessary to successfully transition to your new home. A good first step is to discuss your feelings with those you trust with your innermost emotions. Talk about your insecurities and your reasons for sadness. Just getting it out there is a way of release of those negative feelings and the beginning of positive excitement for your new way of life. Remember, you are moving to enhance your way of living by removing the burdens of home maintenance, as well as financial demands and security issues. You are moving to a home that meets your physical and emotional needs for several years or the rest of your life. Try to focus on the benefits of your move rather than the losses of your past living environment. You will find that once the process is completed, a new sense of excitement and freedom will emerge and you will probably say to those who ask about your move…”I wish I had done it sooner!”

Bruce Nemovitz is a Senior Real Estate Specialist, as well as Certified Senior Advisor. Bruce has sold residential homes in the four county Milwaukee-Metro areas for 30 years. He has just published a book called “Moving in the Right Direction”, a Senior’s Guide to Moving and Downsizing. He works with his wife Jeanne and assistant Boni at Realty Executives Integrity.

Please feel free to call Bruce or his team with any real estate questions, you may have at 262-242-6177, or email at Bruce@BrucesTeam.com. You can go to their website at www.brucesteam.com and view the many articles and important information related to moving and downsizing!