Bruce Nemovitz

When talking to my many senior clients who have lived in their homes for many years, it occurred to me that leaving their homes is like losing a friend. It evokes many of the same emotions. First, there is a sense of deep loss. Clients describe this feeling as a void that they will never fill. Just as when a good friend departs from our lives through disagreement, a move to another location, or death, we grieve for that person’s departure. It is the same with our homes. We go through this grieving process in many cases. We raise our families, have gatherings, and enjoy our peace and safety in the places we call home. It is so difficult in many cases to think of replacing this “good friend” with a stranger.

Yes, anger can be another emotion as we travel through this process of letting go. We are angered at the fact that reasons beyond our control are forcing the sale of our life long homes. It may be because of deteriorating health, financial, or changing environment that may cause us to let go of our treasure. We must face these emotions and deal with them in the same way we would with any trauma we suffer.

Fear is another emotion that can seep into this process of letting go. We are in our comfort zones in our homes, and to replace that with an unknown can evoke so many scenarios of disappointment and heartache. We contrive many negative scenarios in our minds as a self protection mechanism to cope with the challenge of moving.

A friend sent me the following writing which I believe describes the loss of a friend, the reason for them having been in our lives, and an explanation of their departure. I believe this can apply to one of your best friends, your home!

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it, it is real. But only for a season!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Bruce Nemovitz is a Senior Real Estate Specialist, Certified Senior Advisor, and Certified Residential Specialist. He has sold homes in the 4 county Milwaukee-Metro area for over 28 years. You can reach Bruce or his team at 262-242-6177, or email at Bruce@BrucesTeam.com